How often do you say “I’m sorry” when what you actually mean is “thank you”? I know I’m guilty of this one – in fact, I feel guilty over just about anything. Because of that, I’m quick to apologize for doing something that results in someone doing something for me. For example: as a vegetarian, sometimes people will make special veggie options for meals. I’ll apologize for not eating meat, but I’m not sorry I don’t eat meat (I’m quite pleased with that decision) but I feel bad someone is going out of their way to do something special for me. So really, I’m not sorry… rather, I’m appreciative of someone’s actions. So, let’s swap “I’m sorry” with “thank you” – it’s a practice in self empowerment.
These comics from illustrator Yao Xiao explain it quite well:
When someone is being kind and listening to you
When you’re going through a rough time and someone’s there to cheer you up
When someone has been by your side
When someone is letting you vent to them and talk through some stuff
When you’re running a little late
Appreciate, don’t apologize