If you read Unintentionally Rude Questions You Should Stop Asking People, you know they were spot on – and people need to be stopped! Sometimes we might mistakenly offend people and not even realize it. People work hard at their careers and are proud of the work they do, so sometimes what can seem like a harmless question might come off as demeaning. Here are the five rude career questions you need to stop asking people:
1. Does that pay a lot?
This is probably just as bad as, “How much money do you make?”
It’s basically like asking someone, “Is it worth it?” If someone loves what they do the money isn’t their number one focus – and it shouldn’t be yours either.
2. Can I pick your brain?
An innocent request that make even the sweetest person explode in rage. Working a few years in the public relations world, I get this one a lot. It’s very devaluing for someone to want me to put my years of education and experience neatly in to the palm of their hands to help them pursue whatever ventures they have. I immensely enjoy helping others around me, especially when it’s to make their business and dreams come true – but when you’re asking me for my expertise (FOR FREE) at least buy me coffee!
This goes for every field, unless you’re planning on actually paying someone for consulting services, don’t ask for a chunk of their time for something they do for a living.
3. Do I get a discount?
Ask your landlord that question and see how that conversation goes.
It may seem innocent to ask a friend for a discount on their product or service, but it’s actually straight up rude! How would you feel after a long day of work… you get home and see $100 you made for that day gets bumped down to $75 because your boss gave their friend a discount? Value the work of others the same way you value your own.
This is especially offensive or discouraging to someone who is self-employed because their income goes towards paying off bills and expenses. Supporting a friend goes beyond liking their Facebook status – if you’re going to support them by purchasing a product or service, just do it all the way and pay full price.
4. Did you go to school for that?
If someone did go to school and earned a degree for their field of work, they would simply answer, “Yes'”. But if they didn’t, you kind of leave a sour taste in their mouths for making them feel like they are not qualified for what they do. Experience isn’t always measured through formal education, it can also be gained on-site through internships, apprenticeships and volunteer work.
5. That’s all?
If you don’t understand something, keep your comments to yourself. What may seem like a simple job can actually be extremely complex. A person can be completely busting their ass and asking them, “Is that all you do?” can really be a huge slap in the face.
So there you have it – The perfect roundup to passive aggressively share with your relatives before a family reunion! 😉